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Laura's avatar

So this was super helpful for me to read. In 2011 when I was pregnant with my first and choosing midwifes, I read a few of Gaskin's books and I was taken in - I was hungry for something to tell me "you can do this." I do remember the one thing that gave me pause was where she said you could just choose during childbirth to "be like a monkey" and that monkeys have no pain in birth - I remember thinking, ok, but their bodies and brains are somewhat different than mine. When I had an emergency c-section after getting to full un-medicated dilatation because the baby was "sunnyside up" I really did think for a long time it was because I had not "let go enough" or had ended up having fear. Reading this post so much clicked about what didn't feel right in those books at the time.

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You have written and pulled together threads I have also been tracking in my own way and I'm so grateful!

I have recently started calling myself a "recovering hippie." I am going on 20 years now of evolution from many years idealizing but at the same time skeptical of the hippies/homesteaders I made life amongst from my mid 20s to mid 30s. I'd never heard of home birth until I read Ina May's Guild to Childbirth when I got pregnant for the first time in 2006. I embraced it all- home birth, baby wearing, no vaccines, raw milk, making herbal medicine, growing food, etc etc etc. And I did it all in a small island full of white folks like me - classic hippies running away to try to create a utopia- that is made possible by Seattle adjacent microsoft, boeing kind of company, and folks now with small businesses built off generational privilege and cultural theft- no native people remain on the island. But I digress..... Luckily my social justice roots of my southern family came through and I got off the island to pursue a masters in anti-racist education; and later retrained as a doula - taking very different trainings- one from a black childbirth educator and one from a white hippie midwife (whose work is deeply problematic, but I had plans of writing a comparison piece between the trainings as an educational piece but never came to pass). All this was happening too as covid19 revealed who believed in public health and who believed in white exceptionalism. Thus the hippie to alt right pipeline revealed itself to me...

I recently read The Guardian piece on FBS so I'm glad you wove that in. As absolutely they are all connected. The other term that came to mind about The Farm is "regressive nostalgia;" which we are seeing now with this insane obsession with raw milk and beef tallow that the MAHA/MAGA sect idealizes. I see SO many other movements connected to this.... there's an academic on Substack who wrote a piece about clothing designer/rural dweller/homebirth mom Julie O'Rourke (Rudy Jude) who was seen at an RFK jr event, but also stylistically plays into this trope about regressive nostalgia i.e. a kind of purity culture if you will- and how this feeds into this certain California "natural" mom aesthetic that is so popular (sounds like hippies to me). No matter the style you favor it seems white supremacy is there- whether you want a cookie cutter home in a gated community near a mall church or you want a hand built home in rural Maine- white supremacy.

I think the point about whose elder is key here. I can only speak for myself as a white woman with no true culture to claim that because of this white people take it so personally when some hero they've invested in is toppled- like Ina May. Our cultural impoverishment fuels cultural theft. I do see some people doing good work around this but it sure seems rare and slow.

Anyways- really really appreciate you writing this and putting all these things together. I emailed this off to a couple birth work friends.

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